Friendship problems suck. Why? I dont have an answer but I want to know why. What causes someone to clique with another? What causes friendships to fall apart? Are the nuances of friendship problems that hard to understand?
We take our friends for granted. Yes we do, dont deny it. We take it that they'll always be our friends, no matter how bitchy our behaviour may be, whether we hurt them in any way, they'll still be our friends. Thing is, sometimes the chemistry between friends are such that you dont even realise that you've hurt your friend. Until she starts giving you the cold shoulder, that is.
Then we start to think about whether we have done anything that has hurt them. But its horribly difficult to find out what we did to hurt them. Sometimes, I dont know, its just what I say, but I think that sometimes friends may be, well, sick of being with the same type of friends. Perhaps I've hurt someone by saying so. Iam sorry. But its true.. to some extent, isnt it? I mean, something must have occured between friends that force them apart.
Jealousy.
Lack of Empathy.
Lack of trust.
And... being taken for granted.
Jealousy.
Its been said that when one friend achieves something, the other friend must be happy for the other friend. Sure. Aiming to be like that friend is really nothing special. But does jealousy drive us to hate that friend?
Lack of Empathy.
Should we forgive and forget? Can we?
Lack of trust.
"Eh can lend me?"
"Erm...."
"Pls lar, short while only..."
"Later you lose how?"
"I wont lose one!"
"sure ah".
Isnt this enought to tarnish a friendship?
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