There's been a lot of problems recently. And some of them will be terribly hard to solve, but I'll try, anyway.
Everyone who's had a friend (which is virtually everyone unless you're a mountain hermit) knows that the one thing you don't do is to bitch about that friend behind his/her back, no matter how bitter you are. For an 18 year old, that is terribly immature behaviour. You choose to pretend to act covert, going behind our backs to bitch about us quietly, thinking you're doing an amazing job of doing so- but you are in fact, doing the ultimate disservice to yourself. Think about it; you bitch to friend A about friend B, then bitch about friend B to friend A, then create a Whatsapp group to bitch about friend C to friend A and B, then bitch to friend C about friend A and B. Multiply that by friends A to literally Z, and there you have it, the complicated scenario for which you so beautifully constructed for yourself.
The thing is, it's immature. I haven't dealt with such an issue since I was in P6. Back then, had I been the one you were bitching about, I would have cried and thought of what I could have possibly done wrong. But now? Yes, the situation is still the same- I AM the one you're bitching about, but in my case, what wrong have I done? None, and I have perfectly clear about it. My conscience is clear, and I know I have done nothing wrong.
Somehow or other, you choose to find wrong in something that had absolutely no bad intentions. Yes, I've changed, and you chose to perceive it as a bad thing. Oh no, you said at first, he's turning me into a bad person, that now I am becoming all angry and annoyed with the world. Thankfully though, I never believed a word of it because as far as everyone else is concerned, the new me is headstrong and finally able to stand up for my own rights. You hate that, don't you? You hate the fact that I'm not as naive as I possibly once was, allowing you to.... let's not go there. But if you're reading it, yes, you should know what you've done. One day, I decided that enough was enough. Telling you a couple of times in the past wasn't enough, and I'm attached now, to someone whom I can foresee spending my life with. So, I physically stopped it. I pushed you away whenever you tried to come to me (physically), because guys should know their limits when interacting with female friends. Why did I allow it in the past, then? Because I was naive, and I believed that you were doing it to everyone, not just me. Turns out that more than just a handful of people had realised that it was especially prominent with me, while the rest were merely just diluted versions.
I know why, and I shall not mention it here. I will merely state that that was what seemed to have caused the entire situation to snowball- because you were so bitter about the situation, about you not being able to get something you wanted and having to learn the art of giving up sometimes, that you chose to let that bitterness manifest. That's when the bitching started. You are, or should I say, were, my close friend, and as a result of that, you know all my secrets. You knew his secrets too, because he was a good friend of yours as well before this entire fiasco began, and guessed what? You did just what a boy would do- a boy, I say, because men don't behave like that- you used my secrets against us, as weapons of attack against the 2 of us with an intention of... what? No one can figure out, but a negative one nevertheless, because of all the hostility you're building- not within us, but against yourself. It's you against us, as you so aptly put it when I sat down to speak with you one day because speaking and talking things out is a much more mature way to handle situations. (speaking of sitting down and talking it out with you, both my friend and I who were present have noticed that you hid things from us, even as I was trying to be absolutely transparent with you so as to clear up the matter- if you cannot cooperate, it is no fault of ours, we have tried.) "I won't ever judge you," you said. " Oh gosh, I can't believe she..." you say now. And "Hypocrite," you now call me. "It's alright, "you said in the past, to his drinking habit back then. "Dumbass," you say now, on the very same topic of his drinking habit. How... strangely paradoxical. As always, classic examples of the 'pot calling the kettle black' always existed in this world. So does blatant lying, deceit and virulence, for which you so conscientiously stated, "I swear I never called him/her that!"
Returning back to the point, you used my secrets and his secrets against us, with the seeming intention of tearing us apart, of wiggling your way through both of us to have your way. (I say seeming because this, please prove me wrong, I most certainly hope you aren't THAT immoral and vile yet.) However, this has not done anything but make us stronger as a pair, and has in fact taught us to be mature individuals who know how to tackle a problem with it arises, and not the person. We're not children, and we do hope to see a future together, so starting an issue with the 2 of us isn't in fact going to rip us apart, but in fact will, and has already, made us a stronger and more independent pair.
This, plus details which I have obviously chose to leave out here because this is going online, is creating a situation that isn't tearing our group apart- merely tearing you away from us. To be honest, the entire group isn't pleased with your actions, especially where the bitching is concerned, because which kind of friend bitches and backstabs? A fake friend that is. I may have more reason to be unhappy, but I'm choosing not to be because it's the one issue you have to fix first- bitching. I hope you understand that such actions are not how 18 year olds behave.
